Humanity is looking for a way to make things easier. It is looking for bullet points, and easy to follow steps. I recently read an advertisement for essay submissions on “9 Steps to Win a Ladys Heart”. This strikes me as incredibly naive. I do not subscribe to the belief that life can be broken down into a methodical system or intellectual road map. As I sit and think on the title of this submission, I realize that there is not a guide that any one person can give. It does not exist.
I propose instead that success in a relationship must come from a successful relationship with the One who created us. I do not believe that repetition of ???step A??? will always reap ???result B???. There are always other factors influencing the outcome, to which I??™m sure you, the reader, would agree. If I were to say to a man, ???If you participate in your community, then women will realize you are a compassionate man and desire you???. What would your reaction be Surely you would not take me seriously. Why then do we, as men, subconsciously do things like this every day. Why do you wear that favorite shirt that makes you look slimmer every time you go to Sunday morning devotions Why did you donate money to the orphanage Was it to improve the plight of the children Or did you do it to puff up your own image Was it too add a brag point for the next conversation you have with that cute barista at the coffee shop
We often look at life through the lens of ???how???, instead of the better lens of ???why???. How can I win a woman??™s heart How can I improve my good standing in the community How will this impact the way my girlfriend sees me All good questions, but questions that really require a much deeper line of thought. Why do I need to win a woman??™s heart is a better question. Why do I need the approval of my community Why does my girlfriend??™s opinion matter It is only when we delve into questions like these that mankind can discover answers.
The answer lies in a real and passionate relationship with the God of the Universe. All questions of how and why are not only answered through him but laid to rest as well. In a furious and intimate relationship with our Father, we discover our true self-worth. We find our identity. No longer do we search for a chance at love. Instead, we discover the true love and the truth that reshapes and radically alters our lives. A true relationship with God brings us to a reality that is both awe inspiring and fearful.
God wants to love us. He wants to welcome us into His open arms of love. God is Love. Every aspect of His life reflects love. He loved the unlovable. He fellowshipped with the diseased. He walked with prostitutes. His life revealed Love. Think on this. Many who called Jesus friend went on to do incredible acts for Him, went on to suffer intolerable persecution, and ultimately, died for Him. What kind of man instills such dedication in his friends I believe that his disciples knew that they were not only disciples of God, but were loved by Him, and that He called them His friends!
Once we enter into this same relationship with God, our friend, all of our need for acceptance and self-worth will be cured. I contend that we need this relationship with God prior to attempting to win a woman??™s heart. That way our efforts will be focused on actually winning her heart, not her body, money, or persona. We will know the deepest desires of her heart. We can see the wondrous beauty that all women hold, both on the inside and outside. We can open up our hearts and emotions and not fear rejection because we know we are accepted and loved by the God of All. Thought of rejection from a woman pales in comparison to the rejection God Almighty has faced from humanity. How many people have turned their backs on Him How many of you have done that Yet, He still loves. He is bigger and greater than anything we can do or say.
Becoming intimate with God will bring an intimacy, an openness, a security to your life that will attract the affection of the opposite sex. If you??™re wondering why you haven??™t found that special woman for your life, maybe you should begin by finding that special walk with God that the Apostle Paul knew, or the Apostle Peter. Paul knew in his heart that He was loved by God. He endured beatings, being shipwrecked, being stoned, starvation, and jail for the relationship he had with Jesus. He knew God would never forsake Him, and you can see that belief reflected in Paul??™s writings. If you want that level of dedication in your life, that knowledge that you are intimately and furiously loved, than you only need to turn your voice upwards and ask.